Parenting] Teaching children "time management" starts with developing a sense of responsibility.

Teaching a child to read the clock can be learned with repetition and practice, but it is important that the child not only reads the time but also cherishes the time.

The concept of "time flies like an arrow" is an abstract term that is difficult for small children to understand, so I started with the concept of "sense of responsibility", starting from drinking milk, eating, cleaning up toys, dressing and going to school, and then step by step, cultivating a sense of responsibility in children.

I've been asking you to do this since you were a kid.

One morning when my child was 3 months old, she woke up at 6:30 a.m. from a dream and cried for breast milk. I jumped out of bed and handed her the breast milk that had been lying in the thermostat next to the bed, and vaguely noticed that she was actually holding the bottle. From this moment on, I began to give my child as much work as she was capable of according to her development, and I asked my child to hold the bottle for herself every time she drank milk in the future. Once when I was drinking milk with my child in the room with my father, I heard her grandfather coming from the living room, and she started to deliberately not hold the bottle, dropping it twice in a row. I took away her bottle, gently picked her up to burp her, and smiled at her, saying, "I'm taking it away if you don't want to drink it, so wait until the next meal.

A little while later grandpa happened to be out of the house and the baby started to get hungry and was screaming and crying for almost 30 minutes. .... The father said anxiously, "Why don't you let her drink some milk?"

I insisted, "It's going to be milk time in a little while, and it's important to eat regularly! Don't just feed the baby." I had a few arguments with my dad over "milk", but we had a tacit understanding to go to another room and "argue" with our voices lowered. We had a consensus before the baby was born that no matter how angry we were, we must not argue in front of the baby.

Five minutes later, I gathered myself together and I went back to the bed and smiled at my baby and said, "You must be very hungry, right? In 15 minutes, it will be time for you to drink your milk! This time, remember, milk is your own business, you have to do it yourself!

The child seemed to understand and suddenly quieted down. When it was time for her to drink, I brought the bottle to her and she reached out her hand and quickly grabbed the bottle and started sucking it hard into her mouth. She drank 180 cc of mother's milk in 5 minutes and smiled broadly afterward with a big smile and a giggle, and she began to understand that she is hungry and that eating and drinking are her own needs and that she has to satisfy herself on her own. She had to satisfy herself.

◎ "Toy Storage" is very special.

When my 7-month-old was crawling, I emptied the drawers of the cabinets in my room and sorted her toys and books one by one, taking her to put away her toys every time we left the room, and occasionally I would say to her, "Let's play clean up."

1. I would start by spreading out all the toys and mixing them together.
2. Then do the sorting with your child and put the toys back in their place one by one.

I also pay special attention to where everything is placed and don't change it easily, so that the child can get used to packing and won't be overwhelmed by all the changes.

◎ "Self-care skills training" to learn responsibility

I taught her to take off her shirt, pants and socks when she was 1.5 years old. When she came back from an outing, she threw her socks on the floor after taking them off and was about to turn around and walk away. I immediately hugged her and said, "You've done a great job, you're great! I immediately hugged her and said, "You did a great job taking off your socks, you're great! But if you leave your socks here, the ants may move them away and you won't have any to wear next time! What should I do?"

The child froze for a moment, "Uh..."

I then said, "Pick up your socks and give them to your mom and ask her to wash them for you, okay?"

The child picks up the socks and says, "Mommy, please wash them for me."

I said, "Yes! I'll wash your stinky socks for you, so what are you supposed to say?"

The child smiled and said, "Thank you, Mommy!"

Since then, a few times before going home I would observe if she had done it, and if she forgot, I would repeat the above or pretend to say in front of her, "Whose socks are these?"

Once my mother-in-law tried to help her out of her socks.

The child was yelling at the door, "I want to take it off myself!"

My mother-in-law was angry and said, "Mom, she is very stubborn, please communicate with her.

As soon as the child finished taking off his socks, he ran to me with them and said, "Mommy, here you go! I don't want to give them to my mother-in-law.

I hugged her and said, "You were great! But next time someone wants to help you, you can say, 'Thanks for the offer, I'll take off my own socks,' and you can practice saying it once too!"

The child recited once, and then I said, "Grandma was trying to help you, but you're so mean! You have to apologize to Grandma first, because she is very sad, and tell her again, 'I am sorry, Grandma! Thank you for your kindness, I'll take off my socks myself". The child apologized and a grandparent-grandchild dispute was stopped...

Love and communication is always the best way to stop disputes!

Nowadays, children's favorite saying is "Do it yourself, don't need to ask for help", and they also like to "Do it yourself", not to leave it to others, isn't it a manifestation of responsibility? I'm going to share my experience with the most practical way, and I hope to teach you in your daily life without you even realizing it!

Boy, moms and dads go for it!