【親子教養篇】 家長如何成為親師好夥伴 (一)

為了兒女的管教、為了成績，愛子心切的父母常殺到學校找老師，一不小心就成了孩子眼中的大恐龍，與老師也陷入對立的交戰，家長最要做的原來不是辯論和抗議，成功祕訣反而在於「情」這個字。

許多研究都顯示，親師關係對孩子不論在學業表現、行為品格上都有巨大的影響。擁有正向的親師關係，孩子在各方面都會有更佳表現，反之則否。家長希望和老師建立好的親師關係，牽涉到許多微妙的心理感受與互動、溝通的技巧，但最重要的是同理心，擁有一顆柔軟的心，是親師正向互動的基石。相反的，缺乏同理心，就算有再好的溝通技巧、表達能力，都是枉然。

在親師關係中，父母首先要思考自己應該扮演什麼樣的角色。

友緣基金會副執行長黃倫芬認為，老師主要的工作是在幫助孩子學習，啟發孩子對於知識的好奇；家長的工作，則是要幫助老師了解孩子的特性，協助老師因材施教。

也因此，每當孩子來到一個新的班級，父母應該做的，是幫助老師了解你的孩子。

It is recommended that parents seek out opportunities to get to know their child's teacher as soon as the school year begins (e.g., class meetings). You can tell the teacher early on about your child's characteristics or any special conditions he or she may have and what help he or she may need. For example, if your child has never been tutored in English or phonetic symbols before starting elementary school, he or she may need more help and patience from the teacher in the beginning.

You can also ask the teacher if there is anything that the teacher would like parents to do to help their child at home. It is important to open your heart to the teacher and show that you care about your child's learning.