"Parenting" Creating Shared Memories is Beautiful by Wendy Chao

In July, the whole family participated in a lantern-making workshop, where we divided up the work and worked together! In order to find a suitable cloth for the theme, we spent three nights walking around the streets and finally found a suitable substitute; when we were tying the sash, our hands almost got blisters, and when our work was finished at the last minute, we were all very tired, but inexplicably excited, because apart from the artwork itself, it had also incorporated the hopes and hopes of the whole family. Although we did not win any prizes in the competition, it left the most beautiful mark on our parent-child relationship!

In the discussion of parent-child relationship, there are always people who keep pondering whether the time parents spend with their children is important in terms of "quality" or "quantity". Or is it "quantity" that counts? Most parents know that they have to spend time with their children, but when it comes to spending time with their children, they turn on the TV or computer and spend most of their time together in front of TV programs!

As a parent myself, I have been thinking about these issues from time to time. I have read my own children's essays a few times, and I have found that children don't care too much about the trivialities of life, but when they accomplish a task together, the memories are vivid and long-lasting! For example, last year, when my family went camping at a farm in Nantou, my children discussed the list of items on their own, and the whole family planned together, built a tent together, cooked noodles together, and got bitten by mosquitoes together. Although it wasn't a "comfortable" trip, it's a long-lasting memory for my children's center!
In the process of children's growth, parents can make use of activities or events to let children have the experience of paying for things together with their parents. From a psychological point of view, this will allow children to recognize their own value to the "family", and in the process of paying for things, they will get self-recognition and feedback from their family members; from the point of view of family dynamics, the experience of paying for things together can increase mutual understanding, and then generate centripetal force towards the family; in fact, in creating memories, "teaching by example" is also quietly and silently being transferred to children. In fact, while creating memories, "teaching by example" is also quietly and silently being realized. Parents' attitudes and practices towards things are definitely the targets for children to learn from!

"For example, yesterday evening, the whole family rode their bikes to the next town's hypermarket to enjoy some delicious ice cream, but on the way back, we were caught in a northwest rainstorm, only to see four of us struggling in the downpour. When we got home, our eldest son immediately rushed upstairs and brought down the camera, as he wanted to record this historic moment. Our four "heroes in the storm" stood in front of the bicycles and left a wonderful memory under the flashing lights!

The role of parents is to be the artist of life and the sculptor of their children's character. "Shared memories" are absolutely indispensable to make children recognize their family! You can discuss with your children and set common goals. As long as the whole family contributes and goes through events together, they will all become beautiful memories between parents and children, so let's work together!